“The last thing I want is a [platonic] male companion, unless he’s gay,” says the vivacious senior.“Do I want to have solo sex for the rest of my life? I would love to find another soulmate, or, at least, another man I have chemistry with.” Paulette was widowed at 70 after a very happy marriage of nearly 50 years.
It has felt a bit strange, then, that the article which inspired Stitch doesn’t appear on the Stitch blog.We thought it was high time we republished it here, updated to reflect what we’ve learned from the thousands of people who have registered for Stitch so far and told us their stories. We are all living decades longer than we once did, and are staying fitter, healthier (and in some cases, friskier) further into our wisdom years than ever before.Because no matter how old you get, one thing about human nature never changes: nobody likes feeling lonely.Older adults, however, look for companionship in a way that’s very different from their younger counterparts. Paula Paulette is going to be 80 in April — and she’s online dating.
And she’s not just looking for someone to eat ice cream and play bingo with.“All he did was talk very inappropriately about his ex-girlfriend and said horrible things, like that she was stalking him,” she recalls. And I started looking at how I could leave.” Rogo explains verification means that anyone who signs up has to submit their first and last names and Social Security number.“We don’t want to let any scam artist through the site,” she says.Once you’re into your wisdom years your needs, desires and expectations are very different from what you’re looking for when you’re in your 20s.Let’s take a look at nine things you (probably) didn’t know about dating for older adults: It seems counter-intuitive to say that people characterized by one attribute — how old they are — don’t care about age when looking for a companion, but it’s true.Once you get into your fifties and beyond, the actual number of your age becomes less and less significant.