In fact, they'll rarely take their focus off of them for the entire night. But hey, at least I'm not a height snob or something else like that, that a guy doesn't even have a chance of fixing. I don't give a fuck if a guy is 5'6, and I don't care for people carrying on about it like it matters.
I have a feeling quite a few people will be quite surprised to hear some of this coming out of me. I've spent far, far too much time around second language speakers to have even an ounce of condescension toward it left in me. They're doing something that I have never been able to do, something I desperately want to be able to do in Korean. And the truth is, there's nothing I find sexier than a man I have to admit is, in any way, smarter than I am.
But I'm going to do my best to lay that aside, and be really honest. Of course, this isn't a part of Korean dating culture, but it definitely plays a role in inter/// dating. What these particular types don't like to face is that a lot of us women are so fucking relieved to get outside of the stereotypes.
What matters isn't so much why you feel the way you do, or if you should feel the way you do or not, but rather, what can I do make sure you don't feel that way anymore? A Western man is likely to take one look at me and size me up as someone who doesn't need or want absolutely anyone to lift a finger to "take care" of me.
That is an aspect I have struggled long and hard to find in a partner, and one that I struggle with developing in myself as well. And I can get really fucking irritated with the way this just doesn't seem to register with Korean men at all. And women are fragile and to be treated with gentle care.
That they'll scream and shout at each other in that way that only Korean men can sound.
That they'll respond to any compliment about how big, strong, tall or tough they are as though you've just given them the best Christmas present ever. I like that both sides are present and readily visible. I hate it as much as I appreciate it, to be honest, sometimes more on certain days.I think things can get way too complicated way too fast when you get into the physical stuff so soon. And I don't need to worry about some guy either chucking me into the friend zone, or deciding to act like an asshat and make demands that are going to get him absolutely nowhere, while I'm taking my time making up my mind. Basically, while me and the kid were out with a couple of gentlemen, we found ourselves suddenly playing with our drinks and rolling our eyes at each other in boredom, as the two fellas chatted on and on and on about, of all things, video games. You're out with two girls and you're going to forego that situation to have the same conversation you have everyday sitting on the couch in your flat together?In general, in , the first kiss comes sometime after the first night together would come in Western culture. I looked the kid straight in the eye and said, "There is no way in hell this would ever happen in ...."Korean guys are not about to let the ladies sit there looking bored.Because men are men, before they are any sub-category there within, right? When you look at normal everyday life in Korean dating culture and put it up against normal everyday life in Western dating culture, in general, Korean men tend to move a lot more slowly. There isn't pressure to get right into the bedroom to make it clear that everyone is really attracted to everyone else, and then try to sort out the aftermath after the fact. This goes back to my ideals being a hell of a lot less modest than my personal life actually is, most of the time. I'll give you two, and then I'll hit on my last two, my favorites..You can take your time, and it doesn't become an issue. I certainly don't think that getting physical right of the bat removes the possibility for a long-term, healthy relationship, but I prefer, basically, to take the long way around, when I'm dealing with something serious. I don't like that this is the way I've become, but it is.When a man looks down and sees that, on a cold day, I'm wearing nothing but thin tights, and immediately you see his face strain with worry, as he automatically moves to cover your legs with his coat, without even realizing that you're already pulling away.