You may fall first; he may fall first; perhaps, you will fall for each other at the same time. You can't control when you will fall for each other, but the way you handle falling for him will definitely shape your relationship.
She’ll probably say amazing things about you; like what a good catch you are. Our side eye goes away once we know she’s really into you. Spend time telling your girlfriend the fun things about your best friend and why she’s your person. Then give her the time she needs to process the information. Help the conversation go smoothly by bringing up things that your new girlfriend and your best friend might have in common. Send us a text at a random time of the day like you used to. Your silence will be incredibly hurtful to your best friend, so seriously 80/20 this one. Your new girlfriend and your best friend may not get along, but you won’t know that until you try. Don’t spend an hour trying to figure out what to call us. As soon as you know that your new relationship is going to go past a few cocktails or a roll in the sheets, you need to make a point to introduce your friend to your new girlfriend. If your friend is far away, introduce them online with a quick message or a skype chat. We understand that you won’t be around for our regularly scheduled Bachelor and Beer night, or you won’t have hours to spend chatting. This also lets her know you’re thinking of her and want to include her in your new relationship. But we’re terrified that we’re about to be yesterday’s news. You’re the connecting point between your best friend and your new girlfriend. But when you don’t do these things, you dramatically reduce our value to you and to our friendship. How about when he posts a picture with his new girlfriend on his arm at the same restaurant he took you for your 23rd birthday?
Whether you like it or not, you feel threatened, even if you can honestly say you don't want to have sex with him.If you’re afraid your best friend will blow your cool guy rep [by telling all of your worst day ever stories], tell her what you do and don’t want shared. But every once in a while, try to include your best friend in your plans. This lets your friend decide if she wants to join or if she feels like the third wheel. Share the things you’re doing and the places you’re going. Look for similarities between the girls you love the most. Give your friend a reason to like your new girlfriend. We know you’re trying to put your best foot forward. We’re already worried you’re going to dump us now that you’ve got a new woman in your life. Also, realize that your best friend probably just wants your new girlfriend to love you as much as she does. You’re going to a bar with a group of mutual friends— great! Make your girlfriend feel safe around your best friend. Help the two special women in your life learn how to like each other. Discussing college basketball, microbrews, sex and politics with your best guy friend may give you some relief from the typical girl drama you learn about at Sunday brunch with your roommates from college.Often, our friends echo us in terms of personality, morals, values, socioeconomics and goals. No matter the gender, we find our friends attractive.