On the whole, the process of online dating is a great thing.
Singles dress up their bios with pithy zingers in an attempt to match with other bae-less individuals.
But, the fact is, I just don’t enjoy inorganic interactions.I prefer reading a person’s vibes IRL, striking up an easy exchange over Jameson shots or meeting in the pasta aisle at Whole Foods.As a black woman, however, trying to find love online isn’t so simple. You see, it’s an established fact that dating for black women is terrible.On dating apps, which were created to increase the chance of finding love, prejudice abounds.Because of a few failed rounds of my own with Plenty of Fish, I’m averse to finding a boo online. Sprawled across my bed, I signed up via my Facebook profile and the app automatically plugged in four profile pics.
Still, I downloaded the app to see if I had a better chance of snagging an eligible suitor. I don’t know how BAE knew to use my super-cute selfies, but I wasn’t complaining.If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you . Do not do anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret. Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.At Soul we are committed to providing you a safe and friendly environment where you can comfortably meet that special someone.However, if I ever venture back to the Internet for a date, I’ll stick to the kind (like BAE) with less racial bias. Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location. Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.There were also a few non-people of color profiles, like one from a Channing Tatum lookalike I swiped right on. The problem boils down to interest beyond superficial physical attraction, like a connection based on chemistry and correctly spelled words.