Men and women who watched RDPs tended to be less sexually experienced; there were few other correlations with sexual behaviors.When my marriage ended 11 years ago, I went online. They loved to ski, surf, go to the theater, travel to exotic places, go for walks on the beach, run marathons and read. "People present themselves in the best light online," he said. So I signed up for Match.com, which has more than 21.5 million subscribers. One woman wrote me, "Unlike Popeye, I am NOT what I am but if nothing else I am kind and compassionate and to top it off I am interesting and exciting." None of the women on Match were boring. Philip Muskin, Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University Medical Center, is not surprised.
Past research has revealed associations between television viewing and sexual attitudes and behaviors.
We examined a burgeoning new television genre, reality dating programs (RDPs).
Undergraduate students (ages 18–24) reported their overall television viewing, their RDP viewing, and their involvement with RDPs (watching in order to learn and watching in order to be entertained).
They also completed measures of attitudes toward sex, dating, and relationships, and answered questions about sexual behavior.
Most participants were occasional or frequent viewers of at least one RDP.
Men reported using RDPs for learning more than did women; there was no gender difference in use of RDPs for entertainment.Total amount of RDP viewing was positively correlated, for both men and women, with adversarial sexual beliefs, endorsement of a sexual double standard, and the beliefs that men are sex-driven, that appearance is important in dating, and that dating is a game.In all cases, however, these relationships were partially or totally mediated through viewer involvement."No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."I was lucky. (I have friends who have been on dating sites for years.) I corresponded with 50 women and met 15 for drinks, which is recommended over meeting someone for dinner. Because if after 15 minutes you don't like the person you are stuck; and for men that means the bill as well.But then one cold night in November, I met a Match date in a bar in Greenwich Village.I had a date for the next Saturday night for seven years.