Couples meeting on dating apps is the norm now, but could it be that knowing there are always more potential love interests just a swipe away is leaving us spoilt for choice and confused?
“The research here and around the world shows there is a lot of dissatisfaction in the outcomes of many dating apps,” Nicole Mc Innes, Director of e Harmony Australia, told Cosmopolitan.
But the culturally dominant view of able-bodied, heterosexual lives does not align itself with the experiences, thoughts and perceptions of people with disabilities, or those with different sexual identities.Those who identify as LGBTI and who are also disabled may experience additional stigma stemming from their disability and sexual identity, making it even more difficult for them to develop meaningful sexual relationships.Benefits such as Personal Independence Payments (PIP) and the Disability Living Allowance (DLA) exist to cover the extra costs of disability such as “personal care and transport”. Research conducted by the TLC Trust, an organisation that provides peer support and a dating club for disabled people, found that most local authorities do not have a policy on the use of sex workers by disabled people.So whether any particular local authority will condone payments for sex workers using money paid by them is a postcode lottery.But with new apps launching all the time, it doesn’t look like a dating app backlash is going to happen any time soon.
Around 7.8 million UK adults used online dating sites in 2016, up from just 100,000 in 2000.
Discrimination and marginalisation means disabled people often spend their lives denied the opportunity to explore their sexual identities.
The scale is such that in Germany – where prostitution has been legal since 2002 – the Green Party recently proposed “sex prescriptions” for disabled people and the seriously ill.
But it’s not for everyone – however comprehensive Britain’s NHS, it’s hard to imagine a law allowing the same in the UK.
reported in 2010 that money earmarked for disabled people was spent on “exotic holidays, internet dating subscriptions and adventure breaks, as well as visits to sex workers and lap-dancing clubs”.
It doesn’t seem conceivable that a British political party would ever make such a suggestion.