" (No, that wasn't a suggestion for you to set up an arranged marriage.) For the Hebrews and the early church, dating wasn't an issue to be addressed in Scripture. When the Bible was written, a person basically had one of three options: remaining single, an amoral life with multiple partners or prostitutes, or an arranged marriage.There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.
Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.The church has reached a difficult crossroads when it comes to pre–marriage romance.We no longer have rituals of courtship and arranged marriage to guide us every step of the way. It's also spawned a whole range of opinions and advice on how to handle dating.The good news is that most men don't have a problem with this.
Regardless of your theology on the Predestination of Girlfriends, you're probably eager to be an active participant in your dating life. Myth #2: "The Bible has clearly defined guidelines for dating." People didn't date in biblical times.
Dating as a socially accepted means of finding a mate has been around for less than a century.
Before that, strict courtship rituals governed the path to marriage.
German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.
He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of marriage.
Rely on God's love, wisdom, and sustaining presence while you're dating.