Especially since Shaytan spends his days and nights trying to make the forbidden so beloved to you.
That girl or guy you've been talking to is not the best thing that's ever happened to you, and definitely not helping you advance or get closer to Allah.
You know it's wrong, you want to get over it, you want to move on, but it's just so hard and no one understands you! I've heard it all before, especially working with youth.
It may be the single most difficult sin to convince someone to leave.
I knew a brother who left Islam for a girl, because when all else fails, this is the last arrow Shaytan throws at the believer because it works.
But just to make things easy for you, here are 21 practical steps you can take to get over that haram relationship, divided up into seven categories: Enough with the games already. If you think you're going to try to “downgrade” the relationship a little bit, then forget it. In fact, it's the only real step that you have to take.
Someone asking for advice once said that he thought it would be a good idea that instead of hanging out as often they would just talk on the phone and meet for coffee every once in a while. The rest of what I'm going to share is simply how to manage yourself after you take that step. No putting thoughts in each others minds about “when the time is right”, or “let's revisit this if neither of us are married by the time we're 19.” They may try to do the same to you. This will make you both miserable, will make things harder, and will make it impossible to move on.Delete all the emails, texts, Facebook messages, phone number, voice mails, and anything else you have that reminds you of that person.And that's why we need real, practical ways to just get over it.The fact that you're here and reading this is a step in the right direction.You may not think so now, but you WILL get over it.After all, Allah tells us:” (Bukhari) You're probably thinking that getting over a relationship can't be as easy as people make it sound.